How To Become More Confident: 5 Simple Tips

 Hi! Before digging into my simple tips on how to become more confident and improve your self esteem, let me share a short story really quick. I remember when I was a teen, I used to be kind of insecure about my appearance, I was a kind of chubby girl dealing with all the new changes in my body, such as my period, acne, etcetera. I had low confidence, especially at that age when you go to middle school, Oh those times! 

At that time, Instagram nor any kind of social media existed. It makes me realize that this era is more complicated. I have a question for you: how often have you found yourself comparing your life with people on the internet, especially Instagram and Facebook? You compare your work, your life, or even your appearance to another beautiful woman you see on that Instagram explore page. Sometimes social media tends to control our lives or decisions.  I have shared a full post about this topic because it’s crucial to maintain a balance.

Returning to my story, when I was feeling like the ugliest girl, I remember standing in front of the mirror and saying to myself: It’s time to take action! I was realizing that I need to do something to change the things that were bothering me, instead of complaining about myself or judging my body! And long story short, I decided to start working out daily, focusing on the areas that I really wanted to improve, taking care of my skin, etcetera. With discipline, I was gradually getting great results and that’s when I developed the passion of taking care of my skin. I learned a lesson and I realized that I was judging myself instead of loving my appearance and being thankful of having a healthy body.  

It’s completely normal to have days when we feel low, everybody has them but it’s scientifically proved that having self-confidence makes life happier.  The key is to master the feeling of being comfortable in your skin. Once you become more confident, the world is truly yours and the sky is the limit. You’ll see how with this kind of mindset your life will change for the better because confidence leads to actions and actions lead to success.   With that being said, I would like to share some effective ways on how to build self-confidence. These are kind of self esteem activities that will remind you how beautiful you are and that you don’t have to be perfect because no-one is.

How To Improve Self-Esteem And Feel Confident.

1) STOP JUDGING YOURSELF It’s a fact that we are our worst critic and every time we stand in front of the mirror we point out all of our flaws. So I recommend that every time you think something negative about yourself, block your mind and come up with something positive about you and stick to that idea rather than your negative thoughts. We must stop defining ourselves through negatives and choose adjectives.  And please, keep in mind that positive affirmation and repeat it to yourself when you feel low. It will be your mantra that will make you feel better. Repeat it when necessary until you feel it. Always try to look at yourself with acceptance and appreciation, no criticism. Find and educate yourself with good resources that will help you to let go of bad habits, learn to feel, and love yourself.

Love the most important thing you own, your body, and always be thankful for every single part of it. Work on your body from the inside as well as you work on it from the outside. Cultivate your emotional fitness that way you learn to deal with whatever comes your way. Especially during these hard times, we need that motivation to keep going and stay strong, so here’s a good lecture to build confidence and self-esteem in the face of adversity.

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2) TAKE A LOOK AT YOUR POSTURE: Believe it or not, having a good posture, sitting straight, or standing tall with your head high will make you feel powerful. A study shows how good posture can help you to improve self-esteem. Close your eyes for a second and imagine two girls, wearing the same dress but with a different body type. One enters the room with her elbows and head down while the other walks in standing tall with her head held high and that attitude that screams, “hey, I got this!” Which one do you think will look better and portray confidence? I assure she is not faking it, she owns it because being confident and sexy is a state of mind. There are multiple exercises to maintain good posture. Having good posture is not only good to make you feel better, but also keep in mind that having bad posture will increase the risk of developing back problems. Remember that only a few minutes a day you can progressively improve your posture. If you are concerned about your posture you can always try a FDA approved back brace posture corrector. Wear it at home, while running errands, or whenever you want to get your body used to better posture. They are effective and also help with back pain since they are normally orthopedic.

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3) CHOOSE THE APPROPRIATE OUTFITS AND ELEVATE YOUR IMAGE. Remember that your image is a reflection of who you are and how you want others to perceive you. And here, it’s more about finding the pieces that work best for who you are, what you do, and how you move through the world. If certain garments look and make you feel great. Go for it!  There’s a deep connection between style and self-esteem, and girl, if you look good, you feel good.  I always recommend to highlight the things that you like about yourself and camouflage the things you’re not so crazy about. it’s really important to invest in pieces that will simply make you feel good. So next time you go shopping, just remember, if you don’t like it don’t buy it! You will see that if you harness the power of clothes you will feel confident and ready to conquer the world!

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4) DON’T FORGET TO WORK OUT AND STRETCH THAT BODY: It doesn’t matter how intense or long your routine is. Even if you are super busy, try to find the time during your day to exercise. Exercising is like medicine, and the hormones in your body estimate with that and always have a positive impact on your mental health. Exercise is good therapy to improve your self-esteem.

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5) STAY AWAY FROM TOXIC PEOPLE AND CHOOSE YOUR FRIENDS WISELY: Surround yourself with positive people and never let peoples’ comments make you feel insecure. It’s better to spend time with friends that are confident and don’t judge themselves. That vibe is contagious and you need positivism in your life. Spending time with negative people can be the fastest way to ruin a good mood so never let negative people determine the way you feel, think, or behave. You need to know when to walk away from bad companies.

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Remember that there’s nothing superficial about making yourself feel good, strong and confident. You are gorgeous the way you are with all your flawless virtues, so do yourself a favor and celebrate how beautiful you are!

P.S. I want to recommend you a powerful audiobook by a well-known life coach. A book that will help you to become the best version of you.“Best Self: Be You, Only Better” I read the book and I loved it but I’ve realized that the audiobook is more convenient so you can listen to it while driving, cleaning the house, or doing any activity. Here’s the book summary if you are interested. It’a must read!

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XOXO,

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¡Hola! Antes de entrar de lleno en este tema de como mejorar tu autoestima y nivel de confianza quiero contarles una breve historia. Recuerdo cuando estaba en la plena pubertad, hace mucho tiempo atrás, me sentia un poco insegura con mi apariencia. Era la tipica niña con unos cuantos kilos de mas, los cuales me hacias sentir incómoda e inclusive con baja autoestima. Especialmenete a esa edad cuando estas en la secundaria y empiezas a experimentar muchos cambios en tu cuerpo como la menstruación, lidiar con el desagradable acne, etcetera. ¡Oh, que tiempos!

En aquel entonces, no existĂ­a Instagram ni ningun tipo de red social. Es ahora cuando me doy cuenta que en esta era realmente estamos mas expuestos y propensos a compararnos con los demas, sin tener en cuenta que no todo lo que se nos muestra en Instagram o Facebook es lo real. Se compara la vida, el trabajo e inclusive la apariencia con los demas. En escenarios mayores se llega a perder el balance. Sobre esto de como lograr un balance en cuanto al uso de las redes sociales, comparti un post  hace un tiempo. 

Pero volviendo a mi historia, en donde me sentia la niña fea, me acuerdo el estar un dia frente al espejo y decirme a mi misma: Es tiempo de hacer algo. Me di cuenta que necesitaba cambiar aquello que me molestaba y sobre todo mi actitud para poder hacer algo al respecto en lugar de quejarme y juzgar mi propia apariencia.

Para no hacer el cuento largo, decidĂ­ cuidar mi alimentacion e ir al gimnasio frecuentemente y enfocarme en esas cosas que me incomodaban. Con disciplina y dedicaciĂłn fui viendo una mejora gradual y es cuando mi pasiĂłn por el cuidado de la piel comenzo, de hecho. Para mi fue una lecciĂłn y me di cuenta que me criticaba a mi misma en lugar de amarme y dar gracias por tener un cuerpo sano.

Es completamente normal tener dias en que nos sentimos decaidos o que no nos vemos bien, todo mundo los tiene, pero está cientificamente comprobado que el tener una buena autoestima hace la vida mucho mas feliz. Eso depende de nosotros y la clave es aceptarnos y amarnos tal y como somos, con nuestras virtudes y defectos. Una vez que esto se logra, boom! el mundo es tuyo y el limite es el cielo. Notarás como esta manera de pensar tendra siempre un impacto positivo en tu vida, simplemente porque el tener confianza en uno mismo genera acciĂłn y la acciĂłn, genera Ă©xito. Una vez dicho este preambulo, quiero compartir algunas maneras efectivas de como elevar tu autoestima.  ConsidĂ©ralos como actividades a llevar a la practica que te ayudarán a ver lo hermosa que eres por dentro y por fuera.

ÂżComo ganar confianza en ti mismo y elevar tu autoestima?

1) Deja de juzgarte a ti misma: Es un hecho que nosostros somos nuestros peores criticos y al estar frente al espejo, solemos enfocarnos en nuestros defectos. Te sugiero que de ahora en adelante, cuando te venga algun tipo de pensamiento negativo respecto a tu apariencia, bloques tu mente e inmediatamnete piensa en algo positivo que te guste de ti, lo que sea, para contrarestar esa negatividad y quedarse con lo positivo. Te sugiero adoptar una afirmacion positiva sobre ti y repetirtela cada vez que te sientas down. Será como una especie de mantra que te hará sentir mejor. RepĂ­tela las veces que sea necesario hasta que lo sientas realmente y siempre trata de verte a ti misma con acepatciĂłn y apreciaciĂłn en lugar de critica.

2) Pon atencion a tu postura: Lo creas o no, el mantener una buena postura: sentarse derecho, caminar erguido y con la cabeza en alto es una practica para sentirse bien y con poder. Un estudio ha demostrado el como una buena postura tiene gran impacto en nuestra autoestima y ayuda incluso a mejorarla.

Te invito a cerrar tus ojos por un instante e imaginarte a dos mujeres llevando el mismo vestido, con diferente anatomia. Una entra al cuarto con sus hombros y la cabeza un poco hacia abajo o sin mirar al frente, mientras la segunda entra caminando derecha con la cabeza en alto y con una actitud que simplemente exuda confianza y manejo de la situaciĂłn. ÂżCual de las dos crees que lucirá mejor sin importar su tipo de cuerpo?  Seguro acordamos en la respuesta y te aseguro que aquella mujer que luce con confianza en si misma no lo esta fingiendo, lo tiene controlado ya que el sentirse bien o sexy es en muchas ocasiones esta en nuestra mente.

3) Elige la ropa apropiada y eleva tu imagen: Recuerda que nuestra imagen es el reflejo de quienes somos y como queremos ser percibidos por los demas. Aqui se trata de que optemos por aquellas prendas que nos funcionen y que nos hagan sentir bien. Esta comprobado que existe gran relacion entre nuestro estilo y nuestra autoestima. Definitivamente si te ves bien, te sientes bien. Te sugiero que al mometo de elegir tu vestimenta resaltes aquellas cosas que te gusten de ti y simplemente trates de camuflajear aquellas que no te encantan con diveros trucos.

4) No dejes de ejecitarte y estirar el cuerpo: No importa la intensidad o el tiempo de tu rutina, lo importante es moverse. Aunque estes mega ocupada, tienes que buscar un momento para hacer un poco de ejercicio, ya que esto es como medicina y las hormonas que se liberan al hacerlo tienen un impacto positivo en nuestra salud tanto fisica como mental. Es un terapia que siempre ayudara a sentirte mejor.

5) Aleja a la gente tĂłexica y rodeate de personas positivas: Busca a personas positivas, rodeate de ellas y nunca dejes que los comentarios de los demas te hagan sentir insegura. Es mejor pasar tiempo con amigas quienes no se juzgan a ellas mismas y que tienen confianza en si mismas. Creeme que la vibra se contagia y necesitas ese positivismo en tu vida. Recuerda que el estar con personas toxicas o negativas es una manera rapida de arruinar nuestro dia, nuestro estado de animo. Nunca dejes que estas personas determinen el como te sientes, tu manera de pensar o de comportarte.

Ten en cuenta que no hay nada superficial en quererte ver y sentirte mejor.  Nadie es perfecto y tu eres linda tal y como eres con defectos y virtudes. Asi que hazte un favor a ti misma y ¡a celebrar lo hermosa que eres!